Motivation: Don't Give Up If You Fail at First

BY Susan Kersley

Are you one of those people who tries something just once? If you succeed then you are very happy. However, if you fail at first, you tend to give up very quickly and says something like, "I'll never be able to do such and such."

You then carry around the internal message that you will never be able to succeed in what you have just failed to do. Just think for a moment about a baby learning to walk. Do you remember seeing a toddler trying to stand, warbling through moment and then falling over. Do they say to themselves, "that's it I failed I'm never going to walk." No, they keep on trying. They get up and fall over many many times take the steps they are striving to do.

So you too, as an adult, must bear in mind the scenario of a young child learning to walk. If you do something and fail to achieve what you wish for then be prepared to try again and again. Each time you can learn from the time before, so that you adapt the next attempt in a way more likely to succeed. People say that there is no such thing as failure, only a learning experience.

If you feel you've failed something, ask yourself how you could achieve the same result in a slightly different way. Think about your other options and do something differently when you try again. Sometimes it's about where you were trying to do something or whether you have the skills to do so. If your skills are lacking then that is the area you must address for you try again.

You may not have succeeded because of your own mindset about your own capability and whether somebody such as you could actually achieve what you are striving for. Look around and find other people who have achieved what you want and discover what they did which was different from the way you approach the task. Although everyone has their own individual way of achieving something, you can always learn by observing people who have already achieved success in that area.

So don't give up when you metaphorically fall over. Get yourself up, brush yourself down, take a few deep breaths and start all over again. Say a few positive affirmations to yourself such as "I can do this."

You may be amazed about how much you can achieve when you get into the right mindset for success.